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Helpful articles & Recommended reading

"Keith's Manifesto"

God did not design hierarchy into the relationship between 

men and women, either in marriage or in the church.


It's time to jump out of the boiling water! 

We must confront the unrecognized misogyny in the evangelical church...  

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Recommended Reading

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse

by Johnson & VanVonderen


The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse uncovers the sad truth about abusive religious systems, the impact of controlling leadership on a congregation, and how the abused believer can find rest and recovery.

Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage

by Natalie Hoffman


One out of three married women sitting in an average conservative Christian church is in a confusing and painful marriage relationship. These women believe they are alone. I want them to know they aren't. They believe they can't find peace. I want them to know they can. They believe they don't have choices. I want them to know they do.

Why Does He Do That?

by Lundy Bancroft


He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men---and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship

Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out

by Patricia Evans 

Healing from Hidden Abuse

by Shannon Thomas, LCSW


Within every community, toxic people can be found hiding in families, couples, companies, and places of worship. The cryptic nature of psychological abuse involves repetitious mind games played by one individual or a group of people. Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse.

Door Of Hope

by Jan Frank


Victims of abuse-any abuse-need to know how other people have made it through the recovery process. As a victim of incest herself, Jan Frank understands the myriad emotions that victims struggle with and offers ten proven stops toward recovery in Door of Hope.

Only when you and your mate know and respect each other's needs, choices, and freedom can you give yourselves freely and lovingly to one another.

Boundaries are the "property lines" that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved.

Recommended Reading

Boundaries In Marriage

by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Intimate Deception

by Sherri Keffer


Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out.

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse

by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means


Sexual addictions and compulsive sexual behavior are growing societal problems, with as many as three to six percent of the world population affected. Your Sexually Addicted Partner shatters the stigma and shame that millions of men and women carry when their partners are sexually addicted. They receive little empathy for their pain, which means they suffer alone, often shocked and isolated by the trauma. Barbara Steffens' groundbreaking new research shows that partners are not codependents but post-traumatic stress victims, while Marsha Means' personal experience provides insights, strategies, and critical steps to recognize, deal with, and heal partners of sexually addicted relationships.

From Charm to Harm

by Amy Lewis Bear


The lack of language to identify emotional abuse and its aftermath among couples is a major barrier to recognition and treatment. From Charm to Harm breaks down this barrier by providing simple words and definitions that name and explain harmful interactions between intimate partners. Many of these interactions, although emotionally toxic, are hard to distinguish from the normal experience of being in a relationship. From Charm to Harm will empower you to recognize and describe the psychological destruction wrought by an intimate partner who claims to love you

Woman, This is War

by Jocelyn Anderson


This groundbreaking book on gender, slavery and the "evangelical caste system", examines misogynistic Bible translation and commentary, which has adversely effected understanding of the scriptures, relations between women and men, happiness of men and women, and hindered the work of the gospel. The reader is educated about historic parallels between the twin causes of abolition and women’s rights, while the history of women’s rights is traced back much further, to the very first feminists…who were Christians—godly women who brought the issue of women's rights to the forefront as they struggled to alleviate the suffering of others, and found they were hindered in doing so for no other reason than the fact of their sex. This book, provides valuable historical insight into Christian initiatives in the movements for women’s rights, that are rarely included in Christian literature.

God Is My Witness: Making a Case For Biblical Divorce

by Cindy Burrell


"God Is My Witness" is a unique biblical exposé on the subject of Christian divorce. Author and abuse survivor Cindy Burrell takes the reader far beyond the traditional church script, tearing down the walls of legalism to lead us back to the passionate, personal heart of God.

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Divorce: A Gift of God's Love

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The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel v

The Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma 

The Wolf in Your Bed

How to use writing to recover from emotional abuse

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker

A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma

No Visible Bruises by Rachel Louise Snyder

What we don't know about domestic violence can kill us. 

Spilled Milk: Based on a True Story by K.L. Randis

The painful true story of child abuse suffered at the hands of her father, which she testified about in  court, spending her abuser to jail for many years.

Recommended Reading

Broken Trust: a practical guide to identify and recover from toxic faith, toxic church by F. Remy Di

If you have suffered spiritual abuse from a toxic church, toxic organization, or toxic leader, your trust has been broken. You entrusted your life to someone you thought would care for you: someone who initially inspired you to know God, only to reject you in the end. Now you are left wounded and disillusioned, wondering if you can ever trust others, yourself, or possibly even God, again.

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith L

By placing individual experience in a broader political frame, Harvard psychiatrist Judith Herman argues that psychological trauma is inseparable from its social and political context. Drawing on her own research on incest, as well as a vast literature on combat veterans and victims of political terror, she shows surprising parallels between private horrors like child abuse and public horrors like war. 

God Is My Witness: Making a Case for Biblical Divorce by Cindy Burrell

"God Is My Witness" is a unique biblical exposé on the subject of Christian divorce. Author and abuse survivor Cindy Burrell takes the reader far beyond the traditional church script, tearing down the walls of legalism to lead us back to the passionate, personal heart of God.

Why Is He So Mean To Me? by Cindy Burrell

Why Is He So Mean to Me? Authored by abuse survivor Cindy Burrell, “Why Is He So Mean to Me?” unravels the confusing and chaotic world of verbal and emotional abuse. The book walks the reader through the debilitating characteristics of the enabler-abuser relationship, clearly revealing the abuser mindset and the abuser’s most common tactics. It also provides an in-depth look at the victim’s efforts to earn her abuser’s love and explains why those efforts so often fail, how an abuser will likely respond when her responses change, and how to see through his mind games and traps.

Expressive Writing: Words that Heal by James Pennebaker & John Evans

Expressive Writing: Words that Heal provides research results, in layman's terms, which demonstrate how and when expressive writing can improve health. It explains why writing can often be more helpful than talking when dealing with trauma, and it prepares the reader for their writing experience. The book looks at the most serious issues and helps the reader process them. From the instructions: ''Write about what keeps you awake at night. The emotional upheaval bothering you the most and keeping you awake at night is a good place to start writing.''

Writing as a Way of Healing: How Telling Our Stories Transforms Our Lives by Louise Desalvo

In this inspiring book, based on her twenty years of research, highly acclaimed author and teacher Louise DeSalvo reveals the healing power of writing. DeSalvo shows how anyone can use writing as a way to heal the emotional and physical wounds that are an inevitable part of life. Contrary to what most self-help books claim, just writing won't help you; in fact, there's abundant evidence that the wrong kind of writing can be damaging.

Recommended Reading

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency by Robert Weiss

An attachment-focused model, prodependence recognizes that no one can ever love too much, nor should anyone be pathologized for whomever they choose to love as is often the case. Prodependence informs caregivers how to love more effectively, but without having to bear a negative label for the valuable support they give. 

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Redemption From Biblical Battering by Shirley Fessel

If you suspect you are an abused women of faith, you struggle like other abused women, but your faith may be used against you....You pray. You obey. You believe. You love. You hope he will change.  But the pressures keep building- mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and perhaps even physically.  
 
In Batteredin the Name of God , the author shares the tools she used to escape abusewith a strongerfaith in God. A 30-year veteran educator and counselor, shestudiedchurch responses to battered women of faith, along with 14 years ofBible study, theology and philosophy.
 
"This self-help workbook moves recovery forward byclarifying how faith ismisused to sanction abuse. It presents a new paradigmfor working withthese issues. I recommend her innovative and original methodsfor anyone, professional or lay person, interested in pursuing freedom andhealingfrom abuse underwritten by appeals to religious concepts."
 
-  LeonProbasco, Board Certified Diplomate, Psychiatric Social Work

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grief

“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.” José N

  “When you experience loss, people say you’ll move through the 5 stages of grief….
Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance
….. What they don’t tell you is that you’ll cycle through them all every day.”
― Ranata Suzuki


Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”
― Leo Tolstoy


“I saw the world in black and white instead of the vibrant colours and shades I knew existed.”
― Katie McGarry, Pushing the Limits


 “Every morning, I wake up and forget just for a second that it happened. But once my eyes open, it buries me like a landslide of sharp, sad rocks. Once my eyes open, I'm heavy, like there's to much gravity on my heart.”
― Sarah Ockler, Twenty Boy Summer


“Deep grief sometimes is almost like a specific location, a coordinate on a map of time. When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love


“We bereaved are not alone. We belong to the largest company in all the world--the company of those who have known suffering.”
― Helen Keller, We Bereaved

abandonment

"...what are you if the people who are supposed to love you can leave you like you're nothing?”

“Unfaithfulness to the marriage vow can never be justified.”
― J. Otis Yoder, Glory in the Lord


“Cheating only thrills those who cannot see the beauty in faithfulness.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson



“If measured and weighed properly, the pain, loss, tragedy, sorrow, regret and agony behind worldly pleasure are far more than the enjoyment in it.”
― Bamigboye Olurotimi

gaslighting

“Gaslighting is mind control to make victims doubt their reality.” ― Tracy Malone


“This term is used in the 1944 Ingrid Bergman film Gaslight, in which a husband purposefully drives his wife insane by flickering lights, making noises in the attic, and then claiming the very real experience was all in her head.”
― Samantha Rodman


 “People who harm you will blame you for it. Remember, an abuser will generally always play the victim, spin a story, tell everyone and they generally call you crazy.”
― Maranda Pleasant, Origin: Music, Art, Yoga Consciousness


“Emotional abuse can leave a victim feeling like a shell of a person, separated from the true essence of who they naturally are. It also leads to a victim feeling tormented and tortured by their own emotions.”
― Lorraine Nilon,


 

spiritual abuse

"Intimidation and the requirement to submit to a spiritual authority without any right to dissent."

Spiritual abuse includes, but is not limited to mind-control, thought reform, coercion, manipulation, deception, legalism, authoritarianism, guilt trips, judgementalism/”Phariseeism”, holier-than-thou attitude, and a “we are right and everyone else is wrong” attitude.


A narcissist uses their religious belief to manipulate, control and dominate you through fear. They systematically take the life out of your faith and replace themselves in the center.

Christine Hammond, psych central



divorce

“Divorce shreds the muscles of our hearts so that they will hardly beat without a struggle.” E. Lo

 “Losing a mate to death is devastating but it's not a personal attack like divorce. When somebody you love stops loving you and walks away, it's an insult beyond comparison.”
― Sue Merrell, Great News Town


“A heart can stop beating for a while, one can still live.”
― Suzanne Finnamore, Split: A Memoir of Divorce


“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
― Shannon L. Alder


“If you looked round the rooms, you wouldn't think there was anything missing. But it's like one of those Spot the difference cartoons in a puzzle book. The changes are so subtle, yet glaringly obvious once you've seen them. A photo missing here, a cup there. A heart a bit more broken than it was before.”
― Liz Kessler, Read Me Like a Book

Complext PTSD

“After trauma, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert...." Judith He

PTSD And Complex PTSD: What Happens When You’ve Lived In A Psychological War Zone


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child abuse

“Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the sou

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betrayal

"Stab the body and it heals, but injure the heart and the wound lasts a lifetime." Mineko Iwisaki

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wife abuse

"Violence against women is never acceptable, never excusable, never tolerable." Ban Ki-Moon

 https://www.btr.org/i-was-a-victim-of-domestic-abuse-and-everyone-blame

 


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